2019 Bumps In The Road

Unemployment Diaries: 5 Weeks Later, Psychological Implications

I have been unemployed for 5 weeks now, and my life plan changes by the moment. One minute, I’m fixing my mindset for a pre-planned sabbatical. The next I’m ruminating about why no one chooses me for a job. Then I’m forcing myself to be grateful that I’m making some progress on some applications.

Each time I move forward with one company, I mentally start a new life. If it’s here in NC, I imagine myself trying to stay very busy and getting out of this four-walled prison that is my studio apartment.

When my inbox is void of any emails of progress in the application process, I dive into a tail-spin questioning my existence and self-worth. Which generally leads to submission of more applications.

If an out of state job emails me back, I’m filled with fleeting delight. I mull over my cost of living spreadsheet. I check out apartments. I spend hours revising my repository of interview questions and answers. I get nervous; I get excited; I get anxious. To mellow out, I put on a mask of dejection and position myself at the finish line without the job. And with that mindset, the prophecy is self-fulfilled.

After a failed interview, I tell myself the interviewers are the problem with their circular questions and expected coiffed answers. I know what I’m supposed to say, but I can’t get my mouth to cooperate. I actually don’t want to work here but I have to work somewhere to stay out of the poor house. I left my last job because it was making me crazy. I don’t dwell on my weaknesses. My five year plan is not to work ever again.

Update on Job Applications:

Against my own self-imposed ban, I applied for 7 more jobs already this week. I also received 2 emails for phone screens this week; one was Wednesday and the other Friday. After the Wednesday screen, I was verbally offered an onsite that has yet to be scheduled.

For the most part, while my applying has decreased from 14 my first week to 7 this week, I have been unsuccessful in trying to stop obsessing about my next job. I’m still searching, albeit only 2 days this week vs 7 days in past weeks. And I’m still obsessing even if I’m not online.  Because of this, I’m leaning toward just going back to work sooner rather than later;  not transitioning to a default sabbatical as I’d hoped; and just forging full steam ahead to FIRE over the next five years. Thoughts?

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  1. Have you considered Career Counseling to maybe help define more specifically your looking for/not looking for in employment

    1. Where does one go for something like that if you’re not a student? I’ve done a couple of free online tests to see if they could point me in the right direction…the latest results: economist, teacher, healthcare… 2 out of 3 ain’t bad 🙂

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      Thanks for stopping by, Lynn!!

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